The only thing I can slightly agree with you on Kyle, is that there are people that gets a "free pass" sometimes. At the same time, I do belive that everyone are trying to handle each situation fair and equal. I have no idea if those "free pass" situations happens because of a lack of reports or friendship, but in RD, as far as I can understand (not talking about other leagues, getting forum-space here) it's impossible for a staff member that holds a grudge against someone, to be able to penalize a driver by themselves. And I find it hard to believe that a random driver are getting picked out to get banned.
Then, you were talking about Cambridge earlier, I have no idea what that has to do with driving here, but whatever. You should at least understand, that when you are talking about throwing your car around, and you know that it leads to many more mistakes and when you are talking about daring overtakes. That means you are on the edge, all the time. I'm sure you understand that it means you are more likely to be penalized as well.
I haven't seen the situation that you guys are talking about, however.
my car movement was to scare him out of a manoeuvre and I never intended contact
If you move your car, to scare another driver. You then put all your fate in the possibility that the driver will in fact be scared. If not, you are in big trouble. If the driver doesn't get scared. You do move your car, deliberate against the position of another car, and you know that the car is there. You might not have meant to cause contact. But you knew what you did, and you knew that the car was there. It was a very risky move, and it did fail.
The best thing you could've done, was to accept the fact that you did a risky move, and that move failed. I feel pretty sure that you would've had a better chance if you didn't actually believe your innocence of a move that went ****.
I actually also understand your last point there, even though I feel you are making it a bit bigger deal than it is. But I know what strange penalties, and not equal treatment does do to confidence and speed.
But then, if you had realized your mistake, and also made it clear that you intend to learn from it, then it will be better. You will slowly build your confidence up again. But, if you really do think you are innocent in this, then you are making it way harder for yourself. You are complaining much of the other guys being unable to see your point of view. For me, it looks like you are just as much unable to see it from the other side.
Oh, and I do regret jumping in to this, as I have nix and nada knowledge of any of this. But at least, you can't say that I'm not neutral.