You really need to keep calm and read what I'm saying, without automatically thinking that I'm blaming the issue on you or your hardware. I'm trying to help you, and I know the solution I am attempting to explain works because
I am using it myself every time I start the game since the patch! Let me try a step-by-step instead.
- Start R3E in regular 2D mode so that it displays on your monitor.
- Go to Control Settings => Edit Assignments. Scroll down to the VR section and assign a key to Toggle Monitor View.
- Exit the game, and restart it in VR mode. Do NOT put on your headset yet, watch your monitor.
- If you see the menus, great. If all you see is a black screen, press your Toggle Monitor View key. (You may have to wait a minute or two for the game to fully load and get to the menu screens for this to work.)
- Now that you can see the menus on your monitor, head into whatever game mode you like, and click Drive from the pit menu.
- Now put on your VR headset, sit as you normally would, and press your Reset Position key.
- Your VR view will be reset in the car, and also in the menus.
This is because, as I explained above, the bug is that the reset function works in cars but not in the menus. It's a known issue, they're working on a fix, and the above is a very simple workaround to get racing until that fix is released.
As an aside, you might want to be a little less hostile to those trying to help you in future, or people simply won't bother.